Forthcoming
Why do so many of us feel chronically "not enough" no matter how much we achieve — and what interventions actually help us break this cycle of anxious insecurity?
Enough is a yet-to-be-published book that provides answers to the above and more. It is a guide for those who want to deeply understand why they feel this way — and what to do about it. This isn't a feel-good self-help book that takes 300 pages to repeat the same advice. It's a deep and intricate text that seeks to inform readers so they can take the best next steps for themselves.
If you want to understand why so many struggle with feelings of insecurity, isolation, and low self-worth — and want to learn how to actually solve these problems, instead of simply managing them — this is the book for you.
Book Pitch
Why do so many Americans, especially those born after 1980, feel chronically "not enough" regardless of how much they achieve? An inherent lack of self-worth leads many into extreme self-criticism and isolation from others. Anxiety, depression, attachment disorders, social phobias, and suicide are natural outcomes. Most who try to resolve this problem on their own will fail — not due to a lack of effort, but because society has failed to provide them with the information they need to succeed.
Enough is a prescriptive non-fiction that allows readers to learn why they feel this way and how to break out of it. It argues that society is plagued by "anxious insecurity" — an intense emotional pain caused by poor social bonds, high self-criticism, and a primal fear of rejection. While insecure Americans in their 20s and 30s are the primary audience, feelings of not being "enough" are rising across the developed world. The more industrialized a nation becomes, the faster this issue grows.
Enough could be described as an insecurity-focused version of Lost Connections by Johann Hari combined with The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk.
Current Status
Except for the chapters on friendship and IFS, the manuscript for Enough is complete. It's a substantial book — likely on the order of Sapiens or The Myth of Normal in size. The next steps are continuing with editing and figuring out the next path forward with publication. The focus is on traditional or hybrid publishing.
If you are interested in this work and believe there is some way you can help bring this into the world — or if Enough speaks to you in some way — please don't hesitate to reach out. I'd love to hear from you.
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